The first date is the most crucial time in a new relationship. It's like a job interview or a movie audition -- you get one shot to make or break the deal. It's Friday night, and you have a date... a first date!
Over the past two hours, you've tried on everything in your closet. You've found the perfect top that balances classy with a healthy dose of cleavage. You're wearing your lucky jeans, and you make sure your unmentionables match (just in case).
Hair? Done. Makeup? Done. Outfit? Perfect!
Your look is just right for your dating debut. You're excited and a little bit nervous -- you've crashed and burned on a first date before. Things went well, he said he would call, but he didn't. You were discouraged, dejected and confused.
He was a jerk, that's why he didn't call. That's what you tell yourself, anyway.
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But maybe it's time to accept some accountability for why it was a one-and-done with your Don Juan. Some of the inappropriate behavior on the first date can be overlooked, but some things will send your suitor running for the hills.
To help you stop making the mistakes that derail your relationship before the love train even leaves the station, we sat down with Brenda Della Casa, author of Cinderella Was a Liar: The Real Reason You Can't Find (or Keep) a Prince, to shed some light on these erroneous actions.
"A date with a suitor isn't a promise of anything," explains Della Casa, who interviewed thousands of men for the book. She considers a first date more of a "compatibility test" than anything else.
"Your first few dates are meant to establish if there is real chemistry and connection," Della Casa says. She recommends you not open up to your date like he's Dr. Phil, cursing an ex, delving into issues with your mother and prying into his personal life.
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